Look, you don't need to be telling her stuff. Your IC needs to stick to your other problems and not be a MC. She is not over the OM, and probably still contacting him. So, for you to tell her you aren't going anywhere........thinking it will help relieve her guilt, is not going to work. For one reason, she isn't feeling that guilt at the moment. She has to get through the withdrawals before she can possibly start feeling guilty. Right now she's still longing for the OM!
Just STFU and stop telling her all that stuff.
Crap. Don't mean to hijack, but I just realized I've been doing the exact same thing you have for the exact same reason and it's having the exact same effect on my W. I was even going to talk to my W about how I was working on being patient.. I'm an idiot!
OK, now back to you. Remember this is a process with many ups and downs. Take the long view and try not to get caught on every bump and dip in the road. Even keel and stay the course...
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
