OMG Painter, I'm not sure how I managed to miss your story until now!

Your story has frightful parallels to my own, although my wife is less extreme on both sides - talk of piecing and talk of life with OM. Although in retrospect, I'm not sure of the latter - she has gone underground and I am missing a lot of the conversations. It could also be that the EA (possible PA) wasn't as developed as in your H's case

Be strong and move forward. I'll try to check in to glean advice from your situation, and please feel free to stop in to look at mine. I see big signs of encouragement for both of us, but frankly in my case I'm afraid I'm just chasing windmills.

Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12;
S10 and S6
BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015
EA dissolved 12/2016

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou