Look, you don't need to be telling her stuff. Your IC needs to stick to your other problems and not be a MC. She is not over the OM, and probably still contacting him. So, for you to tell her you aren't going anywhere........thinking it will help relieve her guilt, is not going to work. For one reason, she isn't feeling that guilt at the moment. She has to get through the withdrawals before she can possibly start feeling guilty. Right now she's still longing for the OM!
Just STFU and stop telling her all that stuff.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
