Hi Totally - Thanks so much for stopping by, you are so right, it is such a boost to have support from fellow dbers
H and I had an R chat a couple of hours ago, about the fact that H wants to continue 'friendship' with OW I pretty much tried to understand, but pointed out calmly that it would be difficult for me to share my life with someone who was still emotionally engaged elsewhere. I tried to explain that even now I feel somewhat inhibited with him, which seemed to take him aback somewhat, because as far as he is concerned, our R has never been better I had a bit of a sleepless night last night, going down cheeseless tunnels, so really need to refocus on my goals before the 'rottzalyzations'

re-connect with my family - it has been great, caught up with mom, need to spend more time with brother this week.

re-connect with friends - made some new ones this week, the conference I attended was great. Need to get back to some folks - looong overdue emails

expect nothing from H - you know, I'm actually happy doing this, except I think OW is influencing him big time with her expectations. I'm really in two minds about how long is long enough to expect nothing - any thoughts

continue efforts to sell flat - in the hands of agent - just hope it moves soon

learn from more experienced dbers - it has been a great week, exploring my crazymaking addiction. This board is truly a wonder

PMA - Flowboy's Limbo notwithstanding, I plan to have a ball this week. Getting the STOP signs out when thoughts of H and OW emerge, and moving on with new friends and new activities. Maybe some shopping. Got a trip to the continent coming up, away for a night, I will NOT think of what H and OW may be getting up to - instead I'll focus on ME enjoying the company of some very interesting and fun people who care about me

This journey does have its share of potholes, but to quote KAW, I'm learning to avoid being jarred too much. Slowly

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