Striving to keep the peace within

[mleigh4]

Finally got some time to re-read and answer.

Hawho, good point about S watching with the gifts. I did not think of that.

Lou, thank you so much for the kind words. Do what feels comfortable is right. I am seeing the cake eating clearer and clearer.

Job, my wise one. Even though it makes me feel a bit bad, I am following my true feelings. I honestly don't want H to be a part of our plans this weekend. Not as he is today. Why would I want this situation to spoil my favorite time of year? Not going to let it happen. You are right about Christmas, plans are made, so I will go through with it, on my terms. And yes, I reacted a bit too quickly. I knew that as I was typing him! I could have said things differently.

Hi Heather. Boy you got it. I was thinking last night, S and I were forced to change our whole life, our whole way of living. So we did, we have created our own world, without much of H in it, and we have done a great job! We are happy and enjoying our new world! H thinks he can just pop in when he wants now? No. S and I went through a lot and worked hard to get here. I am very cautious of H motives and will continue to make sure he doesn't succeed in sending waves through our calm waters.

Sotto, it is hard sometimes. No one wants to hurt someone they love, and I am sure somewhere in him it hurts to be excluded from these things. I also know we did not ask for this. H needs to face his choices, I am doing no one any favors if I don't stand my ground. So I try not to worry about him too much.

Hi Buttercup! Thank you for stopping by. It makes me very happy if I am able to offer any comfort. I will read up on your sitch. I hate when standing up for myself makes me feel like a B! I think the way for me to change that is by changing my approach. That is something I have been working on for a while now!

So, all good in my camp here. S and I are having a great night, had a yummy dinner, and just watching Elf. I love that movie! Never any response from H, as expected. The sulk is on. Looking forward to a nice pre Christmas weekend