Ancaire, I am so sorry. You are such a good friend to me and others, a great mom, you deserve nothing but respect. A thought crossed my mind when my H was saying some truly cruel and off the wall accusations to me last night, that I think the only way he would be satisfied was if I truly broke down or even committed suicide- he wants me to suffer. He wants me to suffer and take all the blame so that he doesn't have to. Maybe that is what your H is doing. He is in too much pain himself so he is trying to transfer it to you. He is weak and cannot bear it himself, so he is trying to pass it on to you.
