Sotto honey I'm sorry this is coming up at this time of year. sending big hugs your way.

Pink, I think what makes one person have a MLC vs another is how they deal with their childhood issues/trauma. I don't think it's so much damage from childhood as it is how it's dealt with. I think everyone has troubles growing up to one degree or another, but some have the capacity to look within and do the necessary work on themselves and others just blame everyone else or look for a "quick" fix. Newsflash for those people: the "quick" fix is going within and doing the work. Know what I mean? The rest is just running until as Bono says, you run to stand still ...

Anyway forgive me - just chiming in with an opinion on the point you raised Pink because I've thought about it a lot these many months.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver