Purple hair at 40... Oh My

[Stand4U]

Thank you for the links. I will definitely read through them.

I think so far I am doing well with handling the situation. The issue is I didn't know about all this stuff until it was "too late". She had made her decision to move out. She has never really been "monster" toward me. When she told me she was leaving she was visibly uncomfortable all day and finally said come talk with me. Her words were "I found a place" "I have to do this for the kids". And I said ok and that was essentially all. She didn't say the relationship was horrible. Actually a week before she left she said "You will never know how much you mean to me. You will always be the one who will be with me when my parents pass and through thick and thin."

This are statements I think are truthful and were said during a lucid moment however the cloud in her mind still told her to leave.

The comments she would make such as
"You deserve better than me" "I am a monster" "Im going bat sh!t crazy" and "I can't even save myself" are just proof to me how much she is hurting.

I just hope that from this point on I can handle the situation better based on my reading.