So much of what Sandi says about a WW hits home for me, as well, with a WH. It's the main reason that even though things are not working out the way I want right now - I haven't completely given up hope for my H. His heart is cold and closed off right now. I don't think he will ever find someone like me out there, someone willing to forgive and do the work necessary to make us both happy. My feeling is that he will eventually figure this out. In the meantime, I've got so much work to do on myself, that I've got plenty to keep myself busy while he's out finding himself. I meant my vows. Until I have reason to change my mind, I mean to keep them. But...
this is the single hardest thing I have ever been through, and could never have imagined.
