^^^^agreed. I also remember that it is not easy to come up with goal all the sudden. Start with one today.
Think, what is this the you want to happen in a week, a month or a year? What do you have to do to get there.
There are personal goals, that it is all about you, and the best you control it.
And there are the R goals, that you will be reading about. What to do, if it is working, if not, what is plan B. Every is about someone leaving someone, but they are all different. So, you will try to find that balance in what is the right thing for you and your R.