Rain75: New post re: OW

[Rain75]

Wow wow wow.

How do these men look at themselves in the mirror? What's with the guilt trips anyway?

Earlier he said he hoped the kids and i have a wonderful day. I did not respond. Later he said. He hopes everything is going well, so i replied....."it is"

Just got a text saying....i know everything is always better when i am not around.

He seems to be baiting me or phishing. In the past i would have pacified him. Told him that wasn't true etc. This time he is so lucky and i mean LUCKY! That I found this board.

Ugh
Rain

[Pink17]

Great Rain,

Keep being strong and do not give any more wood for his fire.

He is spinning out of control. And you are right, he is trying to make you feel guilty because he is in this mess. So keep doing what you are doing.

Be aware that he will try even further. So be prepared and do not react to his now crazy state of mind.

But let's forget about him for a minute. How is your improvements coming? ***Short? or are you starting some plans on how to improve yourself, be a better person, become a woman only a fool would leave?

Did you finish reading DR or DB? did you set your goals so you can measure your results? What is in the menu about exercise, it is good for losing weight but it is also good for your brain, exercising release some chemicals to your brain and puts you in a better mood, makes you think clearly. Diet? Hair? Nail? Activities with the little ones?

Any XMas plans?

You see, things can be small but they need to be for you and the kids. Start to concentrate on you and don't just wait by the phone for his next message.

Amazing as it is, this was a mistake I did not do. I sometimes missed his calls or texts because I was not paying attention to my phone.

Real good, keep up the good work, you will do it.
Hugs,
Pink

[tl2]

Sounds like you handled that very well!

[Rain75]

Thanks tl2.

[Rain75]

Hey Pink.....i am not waiting by the phone for him lol. I was but not the past few days. I just don't have a working laptop right now and use my phone for almost everything. I blocked him from calling too though he can leave voicemails.

I am slowly reading DR again.

I have started watching better what I eat

I ordered a dance workout dvd. Should be fun

Only one family member here and a couple of friends. Friends are all doing their family christmas and my family is going on vacation

So me and the kiddos for Christmas but i plan to take them to a holiday parade a few towns over

I decided to do my own hair. Let's see how it comes out

And I have started cleaning out my storage closets

So far Thats it.

Thanks for your words.

[Rain75]

Tl2 all the advice I've gotten is helping me not to react the way that I normally would. But it is HARD

[Azzork]

Hey Pink.....i am not waiting by the phone for him lol. I was but not the past few days. I just don't have a working laptop right now and use my phone for almost everything. I blocked him from calling too though he can leave voicemails.

I am slowly reading DR again.

I have started watching better what I eat

I ordered a dance workout dvd. Should be fun

Only one family member here and a couple of friends. Friends are all doing their family christmas and my family is going on vacation

So me and the kiddos for Christmas but i plan to take them to a holiday parade a few towns over

I decided to do my own hair. Let's see how it comes out

And I have started cleaning out my storage closets

So far Thats it.

Thanks for your words.

These are good things. But what are your GOALS?
If you can lay out the things that you want to achieve, then you can confirm that the things you are doing are getting you closer to achieving those goals!

[Pink17]

^^^^agreed. I also remember that it is not easy to come up with goal all the sudden. Start with one today.

Think, what is this the you want to happen in a week, a month or a year? What do you have to do to get there.

There are personal goals, that it is all about you, and the best you control it.

And there are the R goals, that you will be reading about. What to do, if it is working, if not, what is plan B. Every is about someone leaving someone, but they are all different. So, you will try to find that balance in what is the right thing for you and your R.

Keep up the good work. I am proud of you.
Pink

[Pink17]

Morning Rain, hope it's all well with you.

Hugs,
Pink

[JGuy]

It sounds like you are on the right track, Rain. I'm cheering for you...