The whole process is hard and painful, none of it is an easy task for the LBS to navigate, but this last bit seems to be the hardest. Job pointed out to me this week that we (LBS) see some normalcy and run with it, become complacent and forget the s is still in crisis and anything could happen at anytime, I forget this and reading your update has jolted me back into being more aware.
Take a step back Cali, leave her to continue onward and figure all this out. Give yourself some space from what is going on; your emotions are running high so try not to make too many decisions right now. Look after yourself and your s as he will need your support.