Well, you did some good things! You're working on those 180's, you called her attention to something that matters to you, and you've held your ground.
I'm afraid that you've called the present situation correctly - she is one very stressed WAW! I'm sorry to hear FIL is in the hospital, though. That's tough. Are your kids aware of the circumstances?
I'll join you on the DBing for life, even though I'm not sure where it will lead. At the end of the day, I have to be at peace with myself - and I think this is the best way to achieve that.
