Definitely stick with the program. I'm an engineer and a very good problem solver so I resisted the 180 and a lot of professional advice I was given. I figured I could solve my wife's midlife crisis/affair on my own. After all, I'm a smart guy. Well, I almost "smart guy'ed" myself into divorce. I fully admit now that I was not qualified to save my marriage. The fact that I loved her with all my heart wasn't good enough to save the marriage. I screwed around for a year and a half. I finally gave up, admitted I couldn't solve this, and did everything the DB way. It worked. The 180 started working immediately. Instead of being the one pursuing and crying I became the strong one that was moving on and couldn't care less what she was doing. I was no longer her safety net and that snapped her out of her affair fog in a microsecond. Everything changed after that. When she thinks you're a guarantee then she knows she can do whatever she wants. Treat you however she wants. If you respond by fighting with her then you just become the bad guy. The mean guy to her and all her friends and family. None of that works. The 180 works. For your sanity, follow it religiously. Keep it handy and read it all the time. Every day do a review of your 180 progress. Give yourself a letter grade. Think about each item of the 180. Good luck.
