I posted that three list thing that I borrowed from Caliguy. List what you like about you. This helps you appreciate your good points. List what you don't like about you. Then list what traits you would like or that are ideal. Normally five in each list. Then slowly over time replace the stuff you don't like with what you put on third list.

Fo welcome to the bonfire. Does the o stand for off!?! Haha

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together