You have to do the hard 180. Follow the program like it's a religion. Have faith in it. Every time you go against the 180 you make your situation worse. I resisted the 180 and almost into divorce. When I finally got with the program 100% as a last ditch effort it turned my situation around in less than 3 months. It works. Not 100% of the time but a higher % of the time than anything else. Read it daily, think about it, follow it to the letter. Don't do some steps but not others. If you really want her back as the loving wife she was then the 180 is your best chance.
