Hi Jpeg, I know views may differ on this, but I don't think it is a problem to toss him the odd friendly comment. If you can do that and move solidly forward without getting too drawn in, then no problem IMHO.

The big thing to watch out for is your own need to feel close to him. I've been there and I know that 'need' can feel rather desperate at times - particularly if he is dropping a trail of kibble so for you. But....getting close to him right now (while he is with OW) is like sharing rooms with an angry rattlesnake - comes with a big health warning!

So, I think fine to toss the odd friendly comment over your shoulder, but manage yourself carefully and watch out for cake-eating. Notice, I said 'odd friendly comment' - long exchanges are to be avoided IMHO and if that begins to happen....gently withdraw.

Take care xx

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