I agree w/Lou, i.e., cake eating at its finest. He is the one that is picking and choosing what he wants to do w/his family. He will continue to do this until you decide what will or won't be allowed.
Don't allow the holiday season to dictate your decision as to whether your h participates in other activities during the holiday season. Remember...I did point out that they do come out to play and want to be a part of the family scene during the holidays and once March 17th comes around, they disappear once again.
You've already decided to have him come over on Christmas to be w/you and your son...I think that was a huge plus, but when it comes to other activities, I wouldn't include him in many of them. As for Star Wars, I think it would be nice if you and your son went "alone". Your h needs to see and learn that leaving the family unit and living on his own won't cut it in the real world. If he stamps his feet, let him. He'll get over it and hopefully come to realize that in order to participate in family activities, he needs to get his act together and grow up and be the mature man and want to come home.
It's time that you think about what YOU want right now. If it means doing things w/your son on your own, then do it. But, you are the one that needs to determine whether to include your h in your family activities. I'll leave you w/a question....How can he miss you, the family unit and his home if he's participating as a family member and yet goes to his place when the fun is over?
You've been doing extremely well, but it's time to take the cake away from your h. Also, remember to breathe and count to 10 before saying or reacting to anything he suggests to you about family time.
