She Wants Me to Leave 3rd Time .....EA or not EA?

[isittoolate]

Hi Zeph - physical touch is W's primary LL. mine is Quality time . I guess foot rubs and shoulder rubs serve us both well - we both get something out of it.

I have no expectations - in fact I fully expect another BD in theNew Year - when she says we can't live in this limbo , we must separate etc etc.

I have looked at my original W goals from about 2 months ago. I was told quite rightly to bin them and make goals for myself. I did that and made about 20 personal goals. - maybe I should review them soon.

But with regard to W goals it's interesting to look back and see how I have got on.

1. When W uses her nickname for me (affectionate nickname) more frequently either written or vocally.
She has used my affectionate nickname 5/6 times in the past month - it's getting more frequent.

2. When W says she would like Us/her to see an IC/MC Not achieved 

3. When W asks for a shoulder rub or foot massage. The most neutral form of physical touch. Achieved yesterday - she asked for a shoulder rub - previously I volunteered a shoulder rub or foot rub

4. When W compliments me on a positive change I have made since BD i.e. 'Your such a good father to the kids' - she has complimented me on my new clothes, and hairstyle, and has noticed I am more involved with the kids
5. When W wears her wedding band again. She wears her wedding band but not engagement ring
6. When W is 'happy' to go out with me at a function without the kids - even as 'friends'. She has asked to go to the movies and we went on a 5k run together

Not bad - all of these I would like to make more frequent - achieving them once means nothing - achieving them a dozen times is more meaningful - but no expectations!