hi deb - my goodness, i must read up on your sitch, you are saying all the things i feel. it is very dificult. without this bb, and michele's book, i would definitely have blown it. for me, the fact that my H is telling me about it is important. yes there have been lies, but the more i don't react to what he tells me, the more he feels comfortable telling me.
H says the same things as yours - it is better to let the feelings die a natural death, than an abrupt termination, and have unresolved issues fester in the mind. i take comfort from the fact that H genuinely pays more attention to me these days, is more loving, etc. if he needs a bit more time to extract himself, i will try my best to not let this one thing ruin an otherwise wonderful relationship.
