Don't know what to do anymore...

[Painter]

Julie, I don't know if I have the nerve to go back to the Piecing-forum again! Maybe I will jinx us...

If this is all genuine, I think what happened was that I found out about H's second round with OW just as he had pulled out of it. It basically burned itself out when he saw what she was really like as more time went by.

He says she contacted him in the spring and they were e-mailing sporadically for quite a while, then it got more frequent in the fall. There are some strange and confusing elements to the story - she was supposedly in a committed relationship with someone else, and H never really asked her about it...?

When he felt we were not doing well and told OW that he was going to move out, she supposedly jumped the gun and started talking about moving in with him. It is difficult for me to wrap my brain around how she could do that without any encouragement from H, but I did see in their e-mails that he really didn't reply to her at all about it and was very brief in his answers, which were mostly about unrelated and impersonal stuff.

So it looks like she was a lot more after him than he was after her - and he may feel some kind of relief that he dodged a bullet, perhaps...