slowly and Myrrh, I've not gotten to read all of your posts to know your sitchs well, but your conversation here caught my attention. My H has been having PA, I found out last Oct., started DBing in Dec....3 weeks ago, H told me they "arent seeing each other but are still friends and we talk", and "she will always be there if we dont' work out"...I know he still calls her on the phone all the time, and I feel like he is testing me somehow, as he does nothing to reassure me about the A & that he's not seeing OW...last night I lost it and asked if he was going to see her...(story in "morphing into red hot momma"). I don't know, how on earth do you rebuild trust when you've been lied to so hugely? does it drive you absolutely nuts that about continued contact w/OW? I don't know, I'm kind of having a couple rough days after things seemed to have gone well for several weeks. Maybe it is the moon's cycles. Don't mean to hijack your thread, but trust is such a huge problem for me right now, and I know my distrust sets him off....of course the flip side is, I trusted him before when he told me things, and then really had my heart broken when I discovered the huge lies.
