Time to Let Go.....How? (6)

[Rain75]

Otw.....thanks for your words on my thread. I see you are really struggling with the Christmas question. And like most we can usually see others dilemmas clearer than our own.

But I am new to the world of DB so take this with a few grains of salt.

If you and your W were able to do the mall/seeing Santa without too much of an issue then I do not see how asking about Christmas can be considered pursuing IF it is truly done just for the kids.

Putting aside the look she gave you and what it might mean. And the reason I say only if it's really for the kids is because she might say no.

If you can ask with no expectations I think it's okay.

I didn't ask myself but was informed that my Mr has plans c
For Christmas eve and wants to come by after to see the kids and again on Christmas morning for the opening of the gifts.

But even without me asking. And feeling myself get upset over him having his own plans. I know now had i asked it would have been with expectations and it's possible all hell would've broken loose when he had to say yes but only for a while because i am committed elsewhere.

If a no will be too hard to take. Then perhaps you shouldn't ask.

Just my very NON expert opinion.

Wishing you luck no matter what you decide.

Rain