hi myrhh - i'm so glad to have your view on this, so many books say that the end should mean no more contact, but i too found it better to have H be honest with me, than to hide his contact. yesterday i asked casually if there had been contact, and he said no, except an email he was copied on which was work related. he said he was comfortable with me asking, he will answer truthfully. he just did not want to volunteer info. i think this works for me, and will ask as i feel strong enough to cope.
hi randy - thanks so much for the encouragement. this is delicate business, and every boost helps
well, yesterday was a good day. we aired a few things over breakfast, just on a philisophical note, though we both knew we were sounding each other out on our 'recovery'. H touched base a couple of times during the day, though it seemed like a really hectic day for him.
some progress on the flat selling front, we found a progressive estate agent. H said he would need to do some work at home in the evening, but in the event we just cuddled up on the sofa. i wonder if 'work' was in case i get heavy with the 'chat'?
my emotional ups and downs are still quite unfathomable. i just have to go with the flow. certainly accepting H as an intimate friend has made it easier for me to detach. hope this feeling good continues.
one thing i am hoping to develop is catching H when he does something right/good, and giving him lots of positive reinforcement. i feel good, he feels good, and does more of it - simple, why did i not wake up to this sooner
happy thursday, everyone. slowly
ps. happy believe365 (now ll2f) is back posting, and is mostly ok. sent rotz's car lover joke to H, he is also car crazy, he went pale during the main part of the joke, but cracked up at the final 2 lines - it was fun
