just goes to show how upset i am, i was meaning to ask if the continued contact with OW is something i should make into an issue, or let it ride for now? H says it helps him with the recovery - but will it really? i'd really welcome feedback on this.
another development that got me thinking i could use dbing to good results. H's mother, who has always been a possessive so and so, may be staying with us for a couple of weeks in june. H has in the past accused me of not having the emotional maturity of handling the sitch with his mum, so he runs inteference and does not keep me in the loop with discussions. i used to get upset. but i think i should see it as a bonus, she is poison, H has proven time and again that no matter what she says or does, he is with me, so i should really let go, and not 'own' his problems. maybe give them both more space, and hang out with my friends for a couple of days. will he see this as abandonment? will he start contact with OW again, if i'm out for a few days? trust, trust, where are you?
