thanks, zinta. it is always good to have a more objective perspective on the sitch - i just keep seeing the negatives. yes, we are making progress, albeit slowly. i'm trying to focus on my goals, and not let the fact that H had a conversation with OW yesterday - comparing notes on how they are coping with the end of A derail me too much. actually, it is looming large in my mind, but i have the stop signs out all over the place. ugh, this is difficult.

on my goals:
expect nothing - w are doing very well as friends. re-discovering topics we are both interested in, adding new ones.
making room for H's dignity and giving him space - i'm actually begining to wonder if the latter has been a problem because he may have felt neglected in the past? need to think about this a bit more
one thing at a time - well, the main event is selling our flat. so far, there has been no response to the advert, so we may have to drop the price but it is a shared problem and H and i talk about strategies often. hopefully we can resolve this soon
focusing on myself - apart from lurking on this bb, and shopping at the weekend, i have not really done anything just for me for a while. i need to fit in time for me

i hope i have the strength to not nag H about his contact with OW. i hope i have the strength to not nag H about his contact with OW. i hope i have the strength to not nag H about his contact with OW.

is it just my perception, or are most of us on a down here? does it have something to do with moon phases? till tomorrow, slowly

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