If the goal is to R but you just had BD and he wants to rug sweep what would be a good DR/DB reply to him when he says he can't believe that though I have had many nasty things to say about his A (and i have but am trying to stop mentioning it or ow) that Ive yet to tell him that I miss him or invite him over for a meal to see the children?
I am a one man woman and won't be involved in a relationship unless I'm with a one woman man.
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He swears A is done.
At this moment it may be possible to work through the affair. The only way that is possible for me at this time is if we can do the following: No contact letter to OW, access to your phone and passwords, and a recommitment to the marriage including joint marital counseling. That is the only way I'd be prepared to explore starting a new relationship with you. If you are prepared to take these steps you will find me willing to address any and all issues I contributed that lead to the breakdown of our M.
(If he isn't willing to do these steps) If you're not prepared to do this I'm not really interested in whether your A is over or not because it's been proven that this is the only chance a M has of recovery. The loss of our M isn't what I wanted so that door remains open today, but I can't promise it will stay open indefinitely. I am unwilling to remain in an open or uncommitted marriage so must turn my efforts to moving forward individually.
Last edited by Zues126; 12/16/1512:58 AM.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
