LBH, Nearly 2 Years (2)

[sandi2]

Well, that's all true, but mostly she was showing you just how little she respects you. When she's throwing things around, javing a trantrum, I suggest you can't be nice by telling her it doesn't have to get nasty. To be very frank, it comes across as you being way too soft. I mean, she's pitching a fit and slinging things out of the bathroom through the door onto the bedroom floor. This is a WW's way of saying, "Now, what will you do about this little bit of disrespect I am showing you"? In other words, it's a test to see if you are man enough to do anything about it.

That is mainly what a WW does, is test the H's manhood. She challenges him about everything. Just like a spoiled brat who throws temper tantrums when they don't get everything exactly like they want it. I am no fan of Dr. Spock, so I will tell you that anytime a parent tells a spoiled brat, who is pitching a fit, that it doesn't have to be that way........that parent is helping to create a monster. I believe that's basically what a LBH is doing when he follows his WW around the house trying to calm her down or giving some type of soft-soap response. You are only helping to create a larger monster. And, a monster who will despise you! Is that what you want?

The only way to handle a mean, spoiled, disrespectful, wayward woman is to leave her standing in her own sh't and let her clean it up all by little ole'self. Why are you putting up with her crap? I just don't get it. When a school yard bully picked on you, what did you do?

You have an ugly, spoiled, bully living in your house. And you are going to stand there while she's throwing things, telling her it doesn't have to get nasty? It's already nasty! So, get prepared b/c it's going to get a lot worse. The LBH who dilly-dallied around, hoping his WW will end her A and want to work on the M, can thank himself when things getting worse. I will tell you, and any H out there........it doesn't have to be this way. She is acting this way b/c YOU allow her to do it.

Nothing will work until you show her you will not stick around any woman who acts like her. Until you start acting like you deserve better.........why do you think she's going to believe you do?

Stop being the nice-guy H.