dear myrhh and betsey - thank you so much for helping put things in perspective. it was a lousy time when i last posted, and no, i don't think i will walk away from my H, he has been mostly wonderful.
i just need to come to terms with the A, and how he is taking his time winding things down. we had a good chat over dinner, and he was terrific at validating some of my feelings.
you both are so right, this place and the people here have made all the difference to ME. i have a long way to go to fulfil my growth potential, but mostly, i'm in a happy place. i am looking forward to continuing this journey of self discovery, and building a new relationship with my H. thank you again. you all are a true blessing. lots of hugs, slowly
