Originally Posted By: Ancaire
Fantastic Focus! You handled it with aplomb and style!


Thank you.

Really worry about saying too much. I'm still fiercely protective of my H's reputation in the industry. But I understand that I can't (and mustn't) do anything in that regard. It's part of letting go.

I also worry about saying something that makes people feel uncomfortable.


Originally Posted By: Ancaire
I know we'd be fast friends IRL...you said the magic word - sequins! LOL


I love anything that's shiny and sparkly wink

Originally Posted By: Ancaire
I'm really struggling with what to tell all my old friends who were just here a few short months ago for our twins high school graduation. There was nothing wrong then. Of course, he'd not met the Ho yet, but still. How am I supposed to tell people that have known us for nearly 20 years that my formerly grounded and moral H, has turned into a lying, cheating, scumbag?

When people have been friends for a very long time, they tend to want more information. I've not handled it well at all. I just disconnected myself from most social media and rarely answer the phone. I know...crazy behavior.

I'm just so embarrassed for some reason. Probably because I feel like a failure who couldn't keep her man.

Got any advice for me, lovely one?


I'll have a think this evening. I'll try and post tomorrow some time.

Take care, my friend x


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017