SciDad, are you reading her texts? If you have access to them, are you making copies in case you need them? I remember those days, when the texting was going on and it was awful. I don't have any advice, just want to let you know from someone who has been there that reading the texts probably makes it worse for you emotionally, you will NEVER forget a word of it, and also, just to give you hope, that A's do end. Although things are still not good.
H gave me a very nice gift card to a guitar shop- I am going tomorrow to pick one out. Maybe we can go on tour this summer- LOL.