hey Scidad,

Thanks for the reply. I need to get it straight and I read a post that had the difference between love and smothering that was very helpful. So what I am doing right now is not smothering her. I can see how that could change so easily. I also read that for every year together equals one month of time to pass for healing.

I need to be patient and continue the way I am going. I do need to get back to focusing on me and the kids.

W has texted me today so I have replied back. we have been texting back and forth all day. Mostly about logistics. I have been keeping them no pressure and not needing replies, but she keeps replying.


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016