One thing I've noticed more and more lately is how his memory seems to be affected. Not necessarily towards me, but for doing adult things, like paying bills.
It's almost like he blocks out negative things and I feel like the bad guy when I remind him that he hasn't paid that bill. I know, really none of my business.
Just sad that he is sinking further down financially. Maybe he will need to hit rock bottom before he snaps out of it, but then the last time it happened (before we met) he did a fly by night. Walked away from his apartment and most of his stuff and his bills. Kinda like clean slate, start fresh. He did suffer from severe depression then and had extensive counselling.
When we first got married we cleaned up his credit from when that happened. I was trying to show him how to be an adult. After he quit his job (4 months after we got married) my credit went to crap. His is clean, for now. Mine is sh*t, but I'm now completely debt free. I will rebuild. Had to do it before, will never do it again.
Just concerned about him. I watch for the signs and I see them with him. He hides it well from everyone else. Oh no, he's fine. All is good! I wonder if I should talk to his mom about it. She knows he should go to therapy.
Is it wrong of me to be a bit satisfied to see him struggling? He thought he could be happier without me, but he's not. Then I think, maybe he married me because he thought I could make him happy and again that didn't happen.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know now that happiness doesn't come from another person, but comes from ourselves. We (Dbrs) are learning that! My WAH not so much, or at least not yet.
Still love him, still standing.
I know one thing for sure, he won't file for divorce any time soon. He can't afford to!! In a way that makes me feel better. Lol
Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
