I think it's really great that you have owned up to your mistake. That says a lot about you. Many of the wayward spouses that we read about are in denial, and blame spouses for their unfaithfulness. They often engage in very abusive behaviors to justify their actions that end up being even worse mind "f..ks" You are not doing this.
Husband is deeply hurt right now. His pride will not allow him to forgive you at this point. It is not that he doesn't want to be with you. He does love you. It's his pride. He is conflicted. You have humiliated him in the worst way. By making love to you, by staying with you he is breaking his own moral code.
But in the future anything can happen. What's that saying, don't believe what they say. It's the emotions talking. You will have to be the biggest person you can be right now and if you want this marriage to work you have to put him and his feelings first.
I read somewhere that if your unfaithful spouse is truly remourseful that it is better to stick with them because the probability of them cheating again is smaller then a new significant other.
I don't think you should give up, but be prepared for it to take a long time. Continue to show how remourseful you are. You will have to be prepared for angry outbursts. Validate, validate, validate. Apologize, apologize, apologize. Don't expect him to take care of you right now. Be transparent. Do not engage with any suspicious activity with the opposite seX. Dont ignore him or be cold to him because that will justify him leaving. Don't make demands right now.
Good luck.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
