Unlurking, Rd II: Hitting reset

[SciDad]

This is going to sound more angry than I want it to, but why is it that my wife still tells the OM that she loves him, yet can't say the same to me?

She acts like we're doing better, now calls me "babe" (for years she'd only been using my real name). She got a huge grin when I got a little drunk last night and used a new nickname for her. She grabbed my butt while I was cooking. Mentioned long term plans together.

Yet she sent a good night text to the other man and told him she loved him. WTF! I trust nothing she says or does for the time being, but it's so hard not to get excited and feel I'm gaining traction...