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[Mona52]

It is strange, but not for us to worry about. There is a ton of material on MLC. Reading all about does make the process easier if you are bound and determined to stand and wait. Because it describes everything that is indescribable. It helps you look at your H with compassion and understanding, even when they are at their worst.

I choose not to read the material right now. If he gives me a reason I will, but it looks like I still have a very, very long time to go until he hits rock bottom, and I wont sit around wallowing about his issues.

My 17 year old D might someday get married. But I wont lose sleep now worrying about what flowers she will want, or if her dress will fit. Those problems are years away, and I have no idea WHAT her problems will be, so worrying now cant help.

My R is at the minimum a year away, most likely 2, so he can go and do what he wants. I cant control it, fix it or be a part of it, so I might as well just ignore it, unless there is a reason for me not to ignore it.