One thing kind of important that I forgot is that yesterday it would be 19years that we are legally married and today is our catholic marriage anniversary.
Morning Lovely - I think forgetting anniversaries is a sign of progress! I know it's sad - but in a way it is better than dreading the date, then enduring it. I think it means you are moving forward.
Yes, strange about your H's behaviour. My question is - now you guys are D - is it okay with you that he gets to come and spend hours over at your house, has dinner and hardly speaks to anyone? I get that it's important he can spend time with the kids, but that needn't involve you if you don't want it to?
He doesn't sound to be in a great place, but TBH he needs to find the momentum within himself to change things if that's what he wants to do.
For now, you may want to stick to fairly limited contact in order that you can keep healing and moving forward..but that's JMHO Sweetie.
Glad to hear you are getting out with friends and having some fun. Do you have some nice pre-Xmas activities planned?
Xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Hi Pink While I agree with Sotto ( who doesn't ) I would be mindful that maybe you should leave the door open a small bit for H.
You know my noughts on his MLC and we know how long that can last H is in a bad place and while that's all on H , he is struggling.
We rad plenty of stories of WAS enjoying a great new life and treating the LBS very badly. This isnt the case with H. He was fair in the D and he obviously has strong feelings for you.
I would encourage you to have your boundaries to protect your self while still leaving that door ajar. Until you are sure in your heart that you are finished with an R with him
Great news re invite to the giving of prosthetic limbs I shattered my right femur was I was 19 in a motorbike accident and the doctors were talking about removing the leg. I have a huge chunk missing from my inner thighs and scar all over the leg I had foot drop for two years so I know how much that work is appreciated.
Aa you know I am not a vet or an expert by any stretch of the imagination but I see you forgetting the anniversaries as progress in detaching emotionally. And who doesn't love progress...:)
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Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
Grl, the criticism only went one way. He's a good looking guy and I told him so. Sadly, it didn't go the other way. Guys tell me I'm beautiful now but what I really want is to hear it first thing one morning.
So girls what you do when a guy say you are all good but not for him because you seem like a high maintenance girl.
Is that a complement or is that a way out?
Had this guy that was not so handsome, but not bad either. He did talk, danced and said that: "I am not at your level, you are a high maintenance girl".
I spoke with some friends about this, and they said that I am full of details, and because I am normally not so outgoing that it seems I am over the top.
They said that once we get to know you, then we could see you are a simple and nice person, but from the outside we can see a brick wall.
Wow, never tough I would hear that. So, I am on a quest of what can make me a better person on that area too. How can people look at me and don't think I am very snobby? Because I am not. I am average, just like my heels and jewelry I guess, and I am old too. So, not much to show up anymore.
I think I need to improve my behavior, any clues are welcome!
