Newbie here - unsure of what to do

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Hi Vanilla and Pho - thanks for some female feedback

W has always had a vibrator afaik, after all I worked away a lot and this would be natural.
She mentioned using vibrators many years ago but I refused thinking it would devalue my ' contribution' - I always took great pleasure from giving her multiple orgasms. I can see now she just wanted to spice things up.

After 6 months of DB in 2011/12 we Reconciled and I was much more open to try things. We went down the road of lite BDSM . I remember visiting Ann Summers with her in summer 2012. We bought lingerie and bondage starter kit I think.

They were used a few times but as I always refer back to its not easy with kids at home who could just walk in.

Anal was never mentioned.

So the stash which looks like it gets used is in a smallish bag, lingerie, lightweight bondage stuff, vibrator x 2 plus anal beads and cuffs - the cuffs look unused. Plus lube, amyl nitrate. To me I think she dresses sexy and then uses whatever items she wants that night,

The other bag - it contains items that will not fit in the first bag - that bag is too stuffed. They are all BDSM stuff - some soft cuffs and ties we bought together as part of the starter kit, a rope I think it's from the sex shop as they sell rope and a bondage bra which would need someone else to tie up - I've set indicators to see if they get used just in case. (Knots in rope etc)

A couple of times I was turned down when I suggested using the stuff we bought and this put me off asking again. Also the occasion were we had anal sex was never brought up as she seemed ashamed that the babysitter Who is a grandmother could hear her 'screams' - she was very drunk and very loud!

So according to the receipts she bought some BDSM stuff in June and a vibrator that can be used as a couple - maybe as Pho suggests - she had me in mind - or maybe it was to show to her GFs that she was buying couples items.

The second receipt in Sept - is shows she is experimenting and was just one month before BD. but remember she was detaching physically from me for months before . Maybe this purchase just accelerated the process.