the journey is the reward

[BoldNBeautiful]

My, my, my, lucky I found you! We r similar yet not the same. H cant end it with OW yet, but starting come around...

I like what KAW wrote:

and I'd be very careful about asking for affirmations as just as often as not, it tends to backfire. Often, the S is giving affirmations, but not in a form we are expecting, o we tend to overlook what they are doing. Then when confronted that we are looking for assurences, they get offended that we have been blind by their efforts and that we have not acknowledged their attempts. This is where the 5 Love Languages and Mars / Venus books help out.

This is so true..When I asked my H for reassurance again and again that he is coming back, he got angry and said, 'I thought you see that I am making more effort now. That should tell you something isnt it?' (and in my book, his efforts are too small, that I hardly see them as efforts at all). And that shut me up, at least until now! I am not a mind reader, duhh. But that is what he is thinking. I felt so tempted to ask him again for reassurrance but I guess like KAW said again, its safer to do nothing until you are sure if what you are planning to do will give you the direction taht you want (or something like that, can exactly remember how he puts it).

So, we all know the frustrations and the constant roller coaster ride. It sucks but we are still on this path. Ironic..

BTW, what happened to make your H ended his A? I am waiting for H to do that, but no signs yet...