Huddy - thanks for dropping in and I see you are doing really well in your sitch. Staying strong, resisting the rope pull, but keeping your options open. Day by day mate.

I'm not bothered by the sex toys, I just wish I could take part!

The BDSM stuff is lightweight, cuffs, one item of bondage clothing, a rope etc BUT my biggest fear if that it needs two people to use that stuff and that could lead her to stray. I've set a few indicators on the cuffs, clothes etc which will let me know if she has used them.

This time last year she got into 50 shades books and then went to the movie in Feb this year, I think she has been exploring since then.

It's just another complication to DBing. If she thinks about R then she might always say to herself 'this guy can't satisfy me sexually' but he is a great husband and friend.. She is not getting younger and it's almost as if this is a form of MLC with sex being a big issue.

I am completely open to most sex acts and really enjoyed using the sexy lingerie and blindfold, cuffs etc in the past but
BDSM isn't spontaneous and involves a certain amount of Prep especially when two kids are in the house.

Anyway, last night I gave W another deluxe foot rub. It's about once a week now,

We are out at S11 carol concert in school tonight, another occasion that just the two of us are out together, without both kids, although it isn't a date, we will meet other parent friends.

I might try another foot rub tonight as I was told to reaches the female erogenous zones ? Can any ladies on here confirm ?

This answers my own question smile

Used for centuries to stimulate organs, reflexology restores the body’s natural balance and promote the healing process and can boost your sex life too.

The inside and outside of the ankles are sensitive spots with many nerve endings that correspond directly to the most important erogenous zones of the body; the vagina, penis, uterus and prostate.

The reflex areas located just below the ankle bones correspond to the ovaries and testicles, responsible for helping fertility, increasing libido and improving sexual performance.

The middle/upper part of the soles of the feet respond to the chest and can send waves of sexual energy to the breasts and nipples.



Last edited by isittoolate; 12/15/15 08:33 AM.
Me49 W45
T15 M13
S11 S8
BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12
Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12
W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing!
May-Oct14 drifting
Dec 14 W agrees to more QT
BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY
W filed 1/25/16