Morning Lovely - I think forgetting anniversaries is a sign of progress! I know it's sad - but in a way it is better than dreading the date, then enduring it. I think it means you are moving forward.

Yes, strange about your H's behaviour. My question is - now you guys are D - is it okay with you that he gets to come and spend hours over at your house, has dinner and hardly speaks to anyone? I get that it's important he can spend time with the kids, but that needn't involve you if you don't want it to?

He doesn't sound to be in a great place, but TBH he needs to find the momentum within himself to change things if that's what he wants to do.

For now, you may want to stick to fairly limited contact in order that you can keep healing and moving forward..but that's JMHO Sweetie.

Glad to hear you are getting out with friends and having some fun. Do you have some nice pre-Xmas activities planned?

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus