What a slap in the face. I heard there was a party here, and instead I find Dazed bad mouthing me. (KIDDING!)
Seriously, though, Dazed is ABSOLUTELY correct. My inability to go with the flow (slowly ) hurts me continually.
In the beginning of DB, I literally saw babysteps that next day. (Must have meant my behavior stank, huh?) We had HUGE baby steps, and I always come on here looking for the reasons WHY we had the baby steps?... or WHY didn't it go further? ...or WHY couldn't he have done *B* instead of *A*
You know why?
Because your H is NOT YOU.
I know, I know, profound. At least it was for me.
I think I finally have it figured out with the help of good friends (like Dazed) who keep slapping me silly. H does not react the way I want because the way I want is the way I would react, and he IS NOT ME. DUH!
While you think he should just end talking to OW and up and leave, he may be feeling guilt over leaving her. He is showing his willingness to be with you, to sell your flat and move away, etc. Take it and run with it! Be thankful. I think he is *slowly* committing back to your R. Stop those thoughts. They're just silly and detrimental to your core. Be yourself. "YOU" are not this weak willed person. I know that, just from reading your posts to others.
You seem to have the same problem I (and many of us) have - you are wise, except when it comes to you.
This is where detaching comes in handy. Like when you have an out of body experience, you can actually see the sitch you are in because you are not so close to it. Then, you can make wise decisions for yourself.
) hurts me continually.
