Well she followed up the nice steps on Friday with some nastiness on Saturday. She's definitely jealous/upset that I have a life outside of her. She accused me of going out to pick up women or going to pick up a woman. Only she wasn't as nice about it as what I just wrote.
Oh well, a couple steps forward and then back to old habits. 4 days to D day
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
G Stay strong. Even though it is nasty and something that will need to be worked on later that jealousy means there is still something. Otherwise why should she care? She wants to move on and get divorced. She should be pleased if she really believed you were doing that.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
otw. That's very true. There is still something there or there wouldn't be so much emotion. She would want me to be out finding someone else. I'm pretty sure there's nothing stopping this D but I bet she'll be back. I'm not sure I'll be willing to take her back after the D but time will tell and the truth is I'm not in charge. If He calls me to take her back then I will.
It's 845 here and she's not home. I'll be surprised if she does come home. Not even sure I want her to. It's been a very peaceful night just D4 and I
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Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
You're doing a great job G, she can spew all she wants about you and what you may potentially doing. Any time she wants to put an end to your other life she knows how to.
And you're right, the emotion is good. My W told me right after BD that she loved me so much that she'd be OK with me falling in love with another woman...that that was true love. Makes me want to puke.
Keep walking your path my friend. I can fear the strength and positive internal changes that you're developing.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
I know that is hard. I would like to think that you may be able to accept her.
I really don't miss the in house days wondering when she will be back. But to be honest it isn't fun thinking about it still living in separate houses!
Just keep praying. Pray that she doesn't let enough evil in to do something you couldn't accept.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Last night she was very gentle and kind again. I'm really at peace with the sitch. I'm ready to have a quiet and peaceful home to come home to every night. I'm exhausted. Tired of the uncertainty. Ready for the next chapter in my life.
There is part of me that feels we may get back together some day. But I will not be putting my life on hold waiting.
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
G I hope you are doing as ok as you say. It hurts me hearing the countdown. Somehow i wonder if it would have been better for you guys to have a separation from living to see if that could gain any ground before a divorce.
I guess now whatever will be will be.
best of luck
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
She often says all she ever wanted was some space and time to figure it out. She wanted to choose me and our M but I wouldn't give her space.
IT'S BS!!!! I told her I would move out if she would stop contact with OM. She refused. I actually did leave for a 3 week span bc she said she would stop contact and wanted to work on us. She's a liar and never stopped talking to the OM. I moved back in and into the basement. Then after reading on here that I should never leave the MBR I reclaimed the MBR.
I told her she could leave at any time.
She wanted a separation but she wanted to be able to stay comfy in the house, keep cheating and have me in a one bedroom apt somewhere. Forget it. I'm not doing anything wrong.
But anyway I'm looking forward to the peace I'll have in my life. I hope she will do the work on her own to get healthy and better but if she doesn't it will no longer be a problem in my life. If she wants me back the way she believes it could work for us then she will still need to put in the work
Her Circus Her Monkeys
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
