It's strange but I fail to see how the Greek/Coach story demonstrates anything in a wayward wife situation. I actually see Greek as a little bit more of the hero in their story.
Greek is unhappy and unsatisfied in her marriage to Coach (he was literally a coach which I'm guessing meant he focused nearly all his emotional energy on the kids on his teams versus his wife so I get it). She told Coach to leave and he said no so she said, fine then, I'm going and she left. She didn't leave for another man or for any midlife crisis reasons she left because she felt neglected and taken for granted by the one man she wanted more from. The worst part was probably that she knew he was capable of doing it (she witnessed all the love he poured into those kids year after year) - when was it going to be her turn.
Coach then committed himself to learning (just like you'd expect a coach to do) and read a bushel of relationship books and committed to working on changing himself and attracting his wife back. This was all his wife wanted....a spouse willing to do the work, learn how to be a better husband and participate in a relationship with her.
This could actually be an example of how Greek let coach go giving him an ultimatum to get out or she was leaving but she wasn't going to put up with this crap anymore and then Coach responded. The beautiful part is that thereafter she posted giving him all the glory for saving their marriage (when she's the one the initiated the whole process).
I wasn't here at DB at the time so I don't know precisely how this went down and reviewing the histories is difficult but I just don't see how this applies to a wayward wife scenario.
Greek left unhappy and out of love with Coach but there wasn't another guy involved so she was available to NOTICE coach's changes and listen to his heartfelt apologies. Her heart and mind weren't elsewhere. She was still emotionally available. To the extent he "let her go" and "dropped the rope" by that point she could already witness a change in him and how he was becoming the man she married years prior and if she didn't come home- she was going to lose him. So she jumped back into that Briar patch post haste.
Conversely, with a wayward wife - if you just drop the rope and "let them go" - they'll just be tickled pink and go. There's no looking back to say "oh no, I'm losing my husband" because they've just spent the last few months rationalizing and justifying how awful you are and NOW --- you just seem content to let them go which just proves you never really cared about them at all.
Wayward husbands look back. Let them go works with wayward husbands. Wayward wives - not so much.
That all being said, after a year or so of trying to put humpty dumpty back together again, GAL'ing, 180'ing and trying to get wife to notice you and change, a betrayed husband can then go to "let them go" and just be done the relationship while still retaining a side plate of hope that maybe they'll be one of the couples that rekindles their marriage years down the road. Essentially you are waiting for the affair to end and it might never end so get on living your own life and your (ex) wife will call you if and when the affair ends. They almost always do and the healthier and happier you are at that time, the more likely they'll regret what they've done and seek reconciliation. Chances are you'll have moved on by then....but maybe not.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
