Someone please help me with a plan of action!

[rustbkt]

We had been discussing the sale of our home around March and we had a disagreement about it. I feel that our separation is because of her suspected EA and I hate the thought of selling our house and breaking up our marriage.

We were in the kitchen talking and I got frustrated and blurted out that she was having an EA with her boss and she just looked at me with a look of shock on her face. She basically said what the h are you talking about? I showed her some text messages that I had found on her phone between the two of them and had taken pictures of them. ( the texts were from over a year ago and I had never said anything) She didn't know what to say.

So in a raised voice I was asking her what the h is he texting you this for, what's going on?

This continued on for about 20 min. with me questioning her about how much time they spend together and how inappropriate it is for a supervisor and employe to spend so much time together.

She eventually threw a glass of wine at me and I stood there staring her asking her why she did this while she cleaned it up.

Yes I was angry and maybe I should have said something sooner instead of blowing up.