Good day Slowly,
Been away from the bb for the past couple of days. Looks like you're making some steady progress. ... and seeing more of the positives.

I like the idea of something new for dinner to keep help keep the evenings interesting. PT is big between the both of us too, altho there for a while I had wandered away from it to the point whenever I would touch her she would interpret it as me always wanting it to lead to something more. So, I've gone back to the basics. Whenever sitting next to each other, if its just watching TV, reading or just relaxing, I'd just hold her hand. Whenever, she seems stressed or worn out after a long day, I'd offer a neck/back rub & an embracing hug. Something that I discovered to work very well for us is to shave her legs for her ... lotsa touching there, too ... which often leads to ...

Anyway, it seems like you're getting comfortable in trying new and different stuff. Keep experimenting.

I wish I had an easy solution about making thoughts of OW go away, but sadly, in my sitch OM is still very much in the picture, so I no where near that point myself, but you are not alone with dealing with such "demons". However, I have seen it here more often than not that acting upon those thoughts can have a very destructive effect. So please, before taking any action surrounding any thoughts of OW, take a moment and ask yourself, "Is what I'm about to do move me closer to my H or push him further away?" The answer should guide your actions. If your are unsure, then it best to do nothing until such time it becomes clearer which direction to take. It takes a while but what seems to work best is to continue to take note of his actions. They really can tell you and if your having trouble interpretting them, post them here! There's lotsa of people here willing to point out to you what you may have trouble seeing or even accepting as real progress ... and I will head it off with saying, he is no longer involved with OW.

- He offers to spend lunch together.
- H chooses to join you in doing activities (running, etc...)
- H is making plans for your future together.

... and I think H reading the book is definately a positive. It sounds like your H intuitively came to how its a decision, and it sounds like the book just reaffirmed for him that he is taking the right direction.

Hope the weekend turns out great!

'til later,
KAW