Thanks for the encouragement everyone. S met W for a catchup after trip. She told him I wasn't going to her birthday ( so she did see my message!) and asked him to come. She told him she would cancel the restaurant if he wasn't going as well. I told him he could make his own decision but not to feel pressured by W or me. I explained in more detail why I couldn't behave with W as normal but she is still his mum so he can do what he wants. She asked him if he wanted to go skiing with her and sister and sister's friends ( she hates skiing so making an effort). He said no as he wants to see friends. She's asked him for February. He said he'll see. My doubt now is should I offer to go to birthday lunch to take pressure off him or just continue to keep my distance. She's keeping quiet too, we haven't spoken for more than a couple of minutes in the last few weeks. Don't know if that is good or bad. I suppose it is too early for her to miss me. She's probably annoyed that I don't want to be her best friend as we had said before the split. Of course my feelings haven't changed but still adjusting to not worrying about what she is doing etc. I know it is early days. I went for a Christmas cookery class so if anyone needs duck in Orange sauce I'm your man!
