I don't know if I am the best to answer. You gave me the advise that Christmas is for the kids, do what's best for your kids. I am spending Christmas with my W family. I think that will change if I was D. Right now, this year, I think its the best decision for my kids and the best decision to DB.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016