Just to add some more context... I have become extremely close to my wife's family. Her parents are like my own parents, her sisters and their husbands like my own siblings. Her aunts and uncles like my own.
Much of my pain and issues throughout the years is related to the fact that most of my family is either dead, died since the wife and I met, lives far enough away that I do not get to see them, or were involved in a major family rift that causes us not to talk any longer. The major one in the rift is my brother who was poison in my life, that I am not looking to bring back in. Anyhow, for the holidays, her family wants me there, she even said I can and should be there. Question is, how much is too much? I spent Thanksgiving with them and cut out early, because I emotionally couldn't take it. 3 weeks later I feel much better, and Christmas is still 2 weeks away, and I will be that much better still. I have been spending time with her family members individually, and not advertising it to her. Before she left she made sure I knew that her parents, and her sisters and their husbands wanted to take me out to dinner on my birthday last week, and we did and had a good time. The wife was away, so she really wouldn't know if we went out or not, because she is not talking to anyone.
The question is, do I detach to the point where I spend the holidays completely alone?
Me:34 W:33 R: 15 years M: 7 years W moved out: 11/21/15 BD: 11/20/15 - ILYBINILWY, PA once LRT: 12/14/15
