Based on what I saw with my husband who was kept in dark about his parents relationship, I think you never want to trash their father, but you should not lie to them in order to protect husband and their relationship.
My husband modeled what he thought our relationship should be based on lies his mother told him and continues to tell him about his father. He is under impression that his parents had great relationship. Sometimes I think she believes the lies. (She confessed to me but never to my husband) basically she has enabled bad behavior and now husband thinks that is acceptable and expected from me throughout relationship.
I especially think boys that will one day be fathers need to know that dad's behavior should not be copied. You are strong and a good role model.
Last edited by JulieH; 12/14/1505:52 PM.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
